Why is it so hard to take a compliment?

It's because what we believe about ourselves contradicts what the compliment is saying.

When people say kind words about me, and I can't see what they see, I have a tendancy to argue with the compliment, or toss it back in their direction. 

Here is an example: When I look…

I've been running nonstop for years.  I've been chasing this ideal version of myself. Trying to reach perfection that doesn't exist. Maybe it's the Virgo in me. 

There are many reasons why we as women, especially black women (being a double minority), find ourselves working twice as hard to get half as much. It's what many…

Though I have heard the term before, yesterday I realized what having an existential crisis means. My therapist must have said it at least 7 times yesterday during my session. My life was interrupted by Covid19.  The moment when I realized I couldn't breathe on my own, I called 911. I was rushed to the…

As pure as our intentions were, our flesh was unable to wait.

This became the web we were constantly tangled in. That space between being in love- wanting one another in worst way and still wanting to please God and have him bless our union. 

Us giving in, the night before the move, solidified my desire to…

If you haven't already read parts 1 and 2, you should. Part 3 makes so much more sense if you have.

So, in love we continued the pursuit of one another.

Charles accepting me with all of my hangups and quirks was a big part of what made him stand out to me. He was also thoughtful,…

If you haven't already read part 1, please go back and read it. This will make a lot more sense once you do. 

To understand the fundamentals of who I am in love, we have to explore deeper who I am as a person; how I make decisions; what drives my behaviors.

By nature, I am not…